Delayed Life Syndrome
Why does a person begin to live in the future, not noticing what is happening to him in the present? And what is the risk of delayed life syndrome?
The postponed life syndrome is usually called a psychological attitude, according to which all the best will happen in the future. Today we can only dream and be inspired by our own fantasies and plans.
The term itself appeared in 1997, and today it is gaining more and more popularity. The installation manifests itself in everyday little things:
• A person bought an outfit, but does not wear it, keeping it “until better times”;
• A person deliberately denies himself minimal pleasures, because he does not see any practical sense in them;
• A person lives in permanent anticipation of a better life: when he can take a break from work, devote time to what brings pleasure, give up what takes up resources.
Several factors influence the formation of the postponed life syndrome. This can be a hereditary predisposition, the situation in the family and the behavior of parents (in particular, their attitude to life), methods of upbringing, low self-esteem, and lack of faith in oneself. A person who grew up in an emotionally unstable environment is more likely to be prone to the syndrome.
How to deal with delayed life syndrome?
The most important thing is to understand that this attitude really interferes with life. That it deprives all of the joys, not allowing you to enjoy the moment “here and now.”
Then you have to understand one simple thing: the best way to overcome the delayed life syndrome is to take action. Not some definite one, but the very principle of activity and initiative. When you stop waiting for better times and start living right now, the destructive attitude weakens.
An effective technique is to create a plan in which you include all the things that you want to do in the near future. There must certainly be a place for “completely useless, but enjoyable activities.” Your goal is to slow down as often as possible, asking yourself what emotions and feelings are coming up during the day. Once you find contact with yourself, you begin to live.
In a personal consultation, I will help you get rid of the destructive attitude of “better times”, and you will learn to live every moment of your present!
